Question:

How do I get over feelings of overwhelm, procrastination because I don’t know where to start first? I have all the tools and education I need, yet the fear of tripping up over what I don’t know, holds me back… please help!

Answer:

I totally understand this feeling ‘cuz I’ve been there, still go there!, so many times in my life.

I know you said you have all the tools and education you need…so have you had a nice little chat with your fear? I know it might sound crazy as a loon…and I have seen it work over and over. We often try to force the feelings of overwhelm and procrastination away…not stopping to see what is at the root of those actions (or “non-actions” if you prefer).

What is the fear trying to tell you? Is it “truth” or is it a holdover from the past (whether this life or another, if you believe in past lives, which I do).

Another option to clearing those blocks and false beliefs (I’m not sure I know enough, what if someone finds out I don’t know enough, what if I make a mistake…and on and on it goes), is to look into something like EFT, Theta Healing, and a variety of other methods (many of which I’ll be introducing during my tele-coaching program).

Another technique is to ask the question another way and then let go and let your amazing brain go to work on an answer…

“Why is it so easy to to move forward with ease and grace?”.

or

“What could I do, this moment, that would be a step toward what I DO want?”

This approach is called an afformation by the creator of it (Noah St. John). To learn more about them, check here http://bit.ly/6tYi4.

Does that help? How else can I be of service?

Question:

Hi Mama, I heard you talk about getting clarity on what MY Kick-Butt Life looks and feels like. You mentioned something about using a list and then doing a Bubble Sort. Could you tell me more about this?

Answer:

Sure!  Let’s start with the first part of this question…creating a Kick-Butt List, since you’ll need this list before you can actually do the Bubble Sort.

One of the keys to living a Kick-Butt Life is to figure out what it is, to define it, as clearly as possible for you. One of the easiest ways I’ve found to do this is called a “Bubble Sort”, so named because as you walk through the process what is most important to you “bubbles” to the top and becomes the number 1 priority in your life, at the time you went through the process. It doesn’t mean it that it remains your number 1 priority forever and ever. And everyone I’ve ever taken through this process (including me) discovers something new about what they really want or reaffirms they’re on the right track.

Great to know, eh?

Most of us (at least in the United States), have done this when we’ve gone to the eye doctor to get our vision checked. Remember the part of the process where the doctor fiddles with some dials and then asks “which is better A or B?”. That is a form of Bubble Sort and with the same result…getting the best prescription for making sure you can see clearly!

So let’s start the process of getting the right prescription for YOUR Kick-Butt Life…This process is essential to helping you take conscious, directed action, instead of unfocused actions that don’t help you create the life of your dreams.

Before you begin

Before you create your Kick-Butt Life List, you’ll need…

• 10-20 minutes all to yourself
  Don’t spend more than 10-20 minutes creating your list. This list is about your dreams, your passions…your heart’s desires, not what your head thinks is possible. The “what” is where we’re focusing for the moment, not the “how”. The “how” will come later, after we’ve worked together to clarify the “what”.
• a blank piece of paper (or a special journal for keeping track of your thoughts, ideas and musings?)
• pen or pencil
  Have fun with this! Write with a favorite pen or maybe use some different colors to create a sense of joy and a sense of adventure.
• a quiet place to write, away from distractions and interruptions

Step-by-step

1. Center yourself in the here-and-now
   Feel free to listen to this 3 minute audio Centering Meditation.
2. Think about the following questions

   “What is really important to me?”

   “What would I do if there were no rules, no limits, no “shoulds”, no “nothing else”. ONLY what I want to do, be or have?

3. At the top of your page, write the following sentence:

   When I am living my Kick-Butt Life, my ideal life, the life I publicly (or secretly!) dream of, I am___________________________

   You can shorten it to “When I’m living my dream life, I am” or write something similar that is aligned with you.

4. Write your responses until you have at least 10 items OR you’ve been writing for a maximum of 20 minutes
5. Let your list sit for a while…maybe a few hours or the next day
6. Do a Bubble Sort

   For a short sample, listen in on this 3 minute example

Writing Tip

Write your “be, do, have” statements as individual items so you get the best result from your Bubble Sort. Try to stay away from “and” statements that link a bunch of things you want to be, do or have. Also, write the statements as if they are happening right now, are in your life right now. So, for example:

Instead of “I am traveling the world, first class, with my best friend and visiting great historic spots.”

Write

“I am traveling the world.”

The remaining statements can be used to get a clearer picture of what your Kick-Butt Life is like…and writing them this way helps you do a more accurate comparison.

Till the next time (when we’ll discuss how to do the Bubble Sort)…

love and light, hugs and blessings
MamaRed

Question:

I have a number of things I want to do, how do I know which one to pick?

Answer:

Whoo Hoo!!!!!!!!  So great to hear that you have a variety of interests (even if it does leave you feeling like you don’t know where to start).  I recommend starting with the Attitude of Gratitude for being an Amazing with choices in front of you. Maybe  something like…

“I’m so thankful and grateful I have choices in my life.”

After that, there are many ways to decide which you want to do RIGHT NOW.  (And remember, this is about where you are at this moment.  As you continue your journey you can always refine or change your choice.)

To figure out which choice is most important at the moment, you could…

• Sit back, get quiet and let your inner wisdom share the answer with you.  The answer is within you when you listen carefully. (The trick is to actually listen and not negate what comes up as impossible, or silly, or some other “yeah but”.)
• Become a conscious listener by starting the day with a reminder to yourself to “actively listen” in to the conversations you have with yourself and others. When you actively listen to those conversations, you will find commonalities that illuminate your current priority.
• Ask yourself the question “I wonder what it would be like to know exactly the right thing to do RIGHT NOW?”
• Scan the activities you’re participating in, now and in the past.  There are clues scattered all through the things you most love to do, those activities that you do EVEN WHEN you’re not being paid or have something else that is on your “should list”.
• Use a Bubble Sort to methodically compare one item to another so that what is MOST important to you at this time “bubbles”  up to the top.

I’ve used all of these approaches at one time or another during my years as a seeker and have found the Bubble Sort is a VERY effective way to sort through the many options in front of me.  It helps you get crystal clear on what action to take by prioritizing what is most important right now.

This method has been so useful to my coaching clients (and to me personally) that I always start the search for a Kick-Butt Life with a Bubble Sort.  Together we discover the top 5 priorities and choose action steps based on those priorities.  The results of this exercise often surprise my clients…they realize they’re putting their energy and time into something that doesn’t mean much to them and the simple act of prioritizing what IS important helps them take their next step.

The really cool part is that you can do this exercise over and over again to continue refining what you want to do, what is really most important to you, no one else. You can also use the Bubble Sort to get clear on the details of your priorities discovered during the initial Bubble Sort.

Tip:

Partner up with someone to do your Bubble Sort.  A friend, mentor or coach can help guide you to the choice that is REALLY top priority for you and help you stay away from the “shoulds” and “oughtas” that tend come up, especially when you’re new to living YOUR version of a life on fire.

For an example of how a Bubble Sort works, check out
an example of a Bubble Sort in action.

Question:

Hey MamaRed, exactly what is this thing you call a ” Kick-Butt Life” anyway?

Answer:

Ah, so glad you asked!

The specifics vary from individual to individual…of course, right? Because we are all unique, all individuals and, even if we find many commonalities among those we might share this journey with, no two Kick-Butt Lives are exactly the same.

My favorite definition came popping out of my mouth on a brief elevator ride while I was attending a training event.  A lovely woman sharing the elevator asked me what I did and my response was:

I get to help people create lives that have them leaping out of bed in the morning and leaving skidmarks on their way to get that first cup of coffee (or tea or orange juice, whatever you use to start your day.

So what does that kind of life look like to you? More importantly, what does it feel like to you?

• Are you hanging out at the beach, sipping a nummy drink with a cute little umbrella brought to you by the most handsome person possible?
• Earning billions and giving away millions to your favorite cause?
• Partnered up with the most perfect partner for you?
• Learning how to heal people using the healing technique that helped you get healthy?
• Switching professions so you’re doing something that fills your heart, your soul AND fills pocketbook?
• Raising kids that recognize their Light, their gift, and share that gift with the world?
• Speaking to an audience that needs to hear exactly what you have to say?
• …or?

What does YOUR perfect life, a life on fire, look like for you? What would you do if you were living the life of your dreams? Who would you be? What would you have?

How can you figure it out when there are so many choices facing us every day? Heck, every moment of every day! Since there are so many choices, you need to sit down and get crystal clear on what your perfect life, your Kick-Butt Life, looks like, is like.

One of the best tools I’ve found (even though I’m horribly goal-a-phobic!) is called a Bubble Sort, which is the topic of another post.  Stay tuned!

In the meantime, may your day be igKnighted with passionately powerful possibilities.

MamaRed

Question:

I’ve been focusing on what I want to manifest for what seems like forever.  How long does it take to manifest my vision?

Answer:

Truth?  I don’t know a specific formula for saying “X will manifest in Y time” and I sure wish I did.  Wouldn’t that be ever so awesome?!

I do know my truth is that when I really get honest with myself, I realize there are parts of me that don’t necessarily believe I can have what I want.  Whether it is money or the perfect mate or home or a cottage in a nummy, peaceful spot or whatever it is that I’m visualizing at any given time.  There is some little voice in my head telling me why I can’t have “it”. And that little voice is the voice of the true energetic vibration surrounding my “it”.  And the energetic vibration, contrary to some popular materials, is what really affects what comes into our lives, what we manifest (make true).

And I know there is a part of me wishing that it would “just” happen automagically.  And it simply doesn’t seem to happen that way, does it?

Might this be true of where you are at this moment? Are there some “yeah buts” hanging around in that amazing brain of yours?

If so, now is the time to change the way you’re approaching what you want to have in your life.

Yes or yes?

Yes.  Because you know the old saying about the definition of insanity, right?  It is doing the same old thing and expecting different results.

Here are a few suggestions…

• Get clear on what is really your top priority (make sure it isn’t someone else’s though).
• Feel what you want, don’t simply try to “think it into being”.
• Take action toward what you DO want, even if it seems like it is a small step.
• Try an afformation rather than an affirmation.
• Partner up with someone who can help you get clear and see things you might not be seeing or thinking of as possibilities.
• Check in with yourself and see how you FEEL about the thing you want to manifest. Does it feel possible or impossible? If you don’t feel it is possible, it most certainly isn’t!
• Try a technique such as EFT to clear the limiting beliefs or blocks holding you back.

To your success, whatever it may look like to you!