Category — Common Questions

Question:

I have a number of things I want to do, how do I know which one to pick?

Answer:

Whoo Hoo!!!!!!!!  So great to hear that you have a variety of interests (even if it does leave you feeling like you don’t know where to start).  I recommend starting with the Attitude of Gratitude for being an Amazing with choices in front of you. Maybe  something like…

“I’m so thankful and grateful I have choices in my life.”

After that, there are many ways to decide which you want to do RIGHT NOW.  (And remember, this is about where you are at this moment.  As you continue your journey you can always refine or change your choice.)

To figure out which choice is most important at the moment, you could…

• Sit back, get quiet and let your inner wisdom share the answer with you.  The answer is within you when you listen carefully. (The trick is to actually listen and not negate what comes up as impossible, or silly, or some other “yeah but”.)
• Become a conscious listener by starting the day with a reminder to yourself to “actively listen” in to the conversations you have with yourself and others. When you actively listen to those conversations, you will find commonalities that illuminate your current priority.
• Ask yourself the question “I wonder what it would be like to know exactly the right thing to do RIGHT NOW?”
• Scan the activities you’re participating in, now and in the past.  There are clues scattered all through the things you most love to do, those activities that you do EVEN WHEN you’re not being paid or have something else that is on your “should list”.
• Use a Bubble Sort to methodically compare one item to another so that what is MOST important to you at this time “bubbles”  up to the top.

I’ve used all of these approaches at one time or another during my years as a seeker and have found the Bubble Sort is a VERY effective way to sort through the many options in front of me.  It helps you get crystal clear on what action to take by prioritizing what is most important right now.

This method has been so useful to my coaching clients (and to me personally) that I always start the search for a Kick-Butt Life with a Bubble Sort.  Together we discover the top 5 priorities and choose action steps based on those priorities.  The results of this exercise often surprise my clients…they realize they’re putting their energy and time into something that doesn’t mean much to them and the simple act of prioritizing what IS important helps them take their next step.

The really cool part is that you can do this exercise over and over again to continue refining what you want to do, what is really most important to you, no one else. You can also use the Bubble Sort to get clear on the details of your priorities discovered during the initial Bubble Sort.

Tip:

Partner up with someone to do your Bubble Sort.  A friend, mentor or coach can help guide you to the choice that is REALLY top priority for you and help you stay away from the “shoulds” and “oughtas” that tend come up, especially when you’re new to living YOUR version of a life on fire.

For an example of how a Bubble Sort works, check out
an example of a Bubble Sort in action.

Question:

Hey MamaRed, exactly what is this thing you call a ” Kick-Butt Life” anyway?

Answer:

Ah, so glad you asked!

The specifics vary from individual to individual…of course, right? Because we are all unique, all individuals and, even if we find many commonalities among those we might share this journey with, no two Kick-Butt Lives are exactly the same.

My favorite definition came popping out of my mouth on a brief elevator ride while I was attending a training event.  A lovely woman sharing the elevator asked me what I did and my response was:

I get to help people create lives that have them leaping out of bed in the morning and leaving skidmarks on their way to get that first cup of coffee (or tea or orange juice, whatever you use to start your day.

So what does that kind of life look like to you? More importantly, what does it feel like to you?

• Are you hanging out at the beach, sipping a nummy drink with a cute little umbrella brought to you by the most handsome person possible?
• Earning billions and giving away millions to your favorite cause?
• Partnered up with the most perfect partner for you?
• Learning how to heal people using the healing technique that helped you get healthy?
• Switching professions so you’re doing something that fills your heart, your soul AND fills pocketbook?
• Raising kids that recognize their Light, their gift, and share that gift with the world?
• Speaking to an audience that needs to hear exactly what you have to say?
• …or?

What does YOUR perfect life, a life on fire, look like for you? What would you do if you were living the life of your dreams? Who would you be? What would you have?

How can you figure it out when there are so many choices facing us every day? Heck, every moment of every day! Since there are so many choices, you need to sit down and get crystal clear on what your perfect life, your Kick-Butt Life, looks like, is like.

One of the best tools I’ve found (even though I’m horribly goal-a-phobic!) is called a Bubble Sort, which is the topic of another post.  Stay tuned!

In the meantime, may your day be igKnighted with passionately powerful possibilities.

MamaRed

Question:

I’ve been focusing on what I want to manifest for what seems like forever.  How long does it take to manifest my vision?

Answer:

Truth?  I don’t know a specific formula for saying “X will manifest in Y time” and I sure wish I did.  Wouldn’t that be ever so awesome?!

I do know my truth is that when I really get honest with myself, I realize there are parts of me that don’t necessarily believe I can have what I want.  Whether it is money or the perfect mate or home or a cottage in a nummy, peaceful spot or whatever it is that I’m visualizing at any given time.  There is some little voice in my head telling me why I can’t have “it”. And that little voice is the voice of the true energetic vibration surrounding my “it”.  And the energetic vibration, contrary to some popular materials, is what really affects what comes into our lives, what we manifest (make true).

And I know there is a part of me wishing that it would “just” happen automagically.  And it simply doesn’t seem to happen that way, does it?

Might this be true of where you are at this moment? Are there some “yeah buts” hanging around in that amazing brain of yours?

If so, now is the time to change the way you’re approaching what you want to have in your life.

Yes or yes?

Yes.  Because you know the old saying about the definition of insanity, right?  It is doing the same old thing and expecting different results.

Here are a few suggestions…

• Get clear on what is really your top priority (make sure it isn’t someone else’s though).
• Feel what you want, don’t simply try to “think it into being”.
• Take action toward what you DO want, even if it seems like it is a small step.
• Try an afformation rather than an affirmation.
• Partner up with someone who can help you get clear and see things you might not be seeing or thinking of as possibilities.
• Check in with yourself and see how you FEEL about the thing you want to manifest. Does it feel possible or impossible? If you don’t feel it is possible, it most certainly isn’t!
• Try a technique such as EFT to clear the limiting beliefs or blocks holding you back.

To your success, whatever it may look like to you!